Learn Techniques To Find The Positive Side Of Any Situation
Battling addiction can be a lifelong process, and for some, it can be difficult to find ways to be successful because they are holding on to guilt, shame, and regret. It’s important to seek counseling or therapy if you can’t get past those feelings and learn ways to create a successful path for each aspect of your life. When you feel in control of your own happiness, it’s much easier to stay strong in your resolve to live a sober life.
It’s important to create realistic goals for yourself, however, and to limit your expectations of particular events and outcomes, especially when it comes to work. It can be very difficult to bounce back from a critical review of your job performance, for instance, if you were hoping for a more positive outcome. Learning techniques on how to handle criticism–and how to find the positive side of any situation–is imperative when you’re in recovery and want to be successful.
Here are some of the best ways to do just that.
Learn How To Relax
This may sound easier said than done, but learning how to relax can significantly improve your ability to be successful in recovery. Stress and anxiety are huge contributors to substance abuse, so it’s important to find ways to remove them from your life. Think about the things you enjoy doing most; what makes you the most relaxed? Being with your friends in a controlled setting? Getting a massage or pedicure? Resting with a good book? As long as it’s healthy, use these activities to help yourself cool down after a long day, and find more to implement.
“The best cure for the body is quiet mind” –Napoleon Bonaparte
Learn How To Unplug
It’s not always easy, but sometimes it’s necessary to turn off all your devices and unplug from the world for a little while. Turn the ringer off on your phone, put away the computer or tablet, and forget about social media for a bit. Scrolling through a constantly-updating social news feeds can be detrimental to your mental health, especially with the state the world is in today, so push it aside in favor of reading, exercising, or learning something new.
“We do well to unplug regularly. Quiet time restores focus and composure.” –Daniel Goleman
Learn A New Hobby
Having a hobby can be extremely helpful for individuals in recovery, because it allows for creative expression, relaxation, and reduction of anxiety. If you have a flair for writing, consider looking for freelance gigs online, or start your own blog (which you can even monetize with ads). You can also draw, paint, garden, cook, sing, or play a musical instrument in your free time. The great thing about these hobbies is that they can be done alone or with a friend (or group), so you can choose to be social or go it alone.
You can also learn a new skill, such as speaking a second language. With apps like Duolingo for your smartphone, you can learn while you’re waiting at the DMV if you want.
“Change is the end result of all true learning.” –Leo Buscaglia
Give Your Time To A Cause
Giving your time or money to a worthy cause can help boost self-esteem and will allow you to see your value in the world.
- Volunteering – local soup kitchen, women’s shelter or church.
- Fundraising – help raise money to support a local charity or organization.
- Mentoring – tutoring students who might need extra help.
Philanthropy is a great way to get social, as well, which is something many individuals in recovery have an issue with.
“The ultimate purpose of life is to be of service” –Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
Learn How To Be Positive
Positive thinking doesn’t always come naturally; most of us have to learn it. It can be an important tool to have in your emotional toolbox, however, so think about the best ways to change your frame of mind. Meditation is a great way to do this, because it promotes mindful thinking; that is, focusing on the present rather than worrying about the past or future. Meditation can be done on its own or along with yoga, a wonderful exercise that you can work into your daily routine from the comfort of your own home.
When negative thoughts come, ask yourself if they are valid or if they are the result of your own anxieties. Often, we see things through the lens of our own fears, so when someone is critical of us or our performance, we take in only the negative aspects rather than finding the positive. Actively trying to find the good things in life can help boost your self-worth and make you feel more successful with each new endeavor.
“We cannot control the wind, but we can direct the sail” –Anonymous