“Being young in a party city you are drawn to a certain type of crowd. I thought that was the only way to make friends when I was still drinking.” Now sober, Kristy Juneman realizes there are so many other ways to have fun without drinking and she encourages other young people to seek friendships outside of the bar scene.
Juneman recognized her behavior had become reckless and irresponsible. “I would show up at work hungover wearing the same clothes as the night before,” she recalls. While most would look for support on their journey to sobriety, Juneman knew she had to do it on her own.
Now Juneman stays busy as a hairdresser and technical education director for her salon. She spends most of her free time with her dog, who she is admittedly obsessed with, and taking roads trip with her boyfriend on his motorcycle. “I try to find joy in the little things and live each day to the fullest.”Previous
What worked for me:
I knew the only person who could make the change was me and I decided to do it alone. That doesn’t work for most people but I a very strong will and knew it had to happen.
Best advice for newbies:
There are so many alternatives to alcohol when you are out. No one will notice your glass is different. Just go out, have fun and sip Diet Coke on the rocks.
Advice to my younger self:
Make friends outside the bar scene. Being young in a party city you are drawn to a certain type of crowd. I thought that was the only way to make friends when I was still drinking. Turns out, all those relationships are ruined now that I’m sober.
Rules I live by:
Only do things for yourself.
Don’t wait on someone else to make things right.
Always finish what your start.
Stigma I faced:
The biggest stigma I faced was no longer being invited out and people presuming I was no fun or too straight laced.
Favorite recovery quote:
One of my all-time favorite quotes from the Shawshank Redemption but also my dad says it a lot: “Get busy livin’, or get busy dyin’”. It always makes me laugh when my dad says it, but it hits home with me and helps me strive (with sobriety and much more).
When cravings come:
In the beginning I would have dreams of swimming in a huge fishbowl margarita glass. So, I literally went out, bought a giant glass and made a mock tail. I think I did this about every weekend to mimic drinking alcohol.
At my worst, I was:
I was reckless and irresponsible. I would be hung over at work in the same clothes from the night before.
On my schedule today:
It has become natural for people interested in becoming sober to come and ask me my story/advise. I guess without even knowing it I have inspired/mentored others.
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